3 Stages of Guiding through Grief
Guiding Your Clients Through Grief: 3 Stages
Holidays can be a time of great celebration but for many who experience loss near this time, grief can be an overwhelming issue.
Recent or old, grief can take hold and put down deep roots into people who are suffering, and you may find yourself working in this area more than at other times of the year.
Grief is a sad and heavy energy, the emotions it evokes run the gamut of anger, loneliness, despair, fear and sadness. One can feel their entire structure of life has been betrayed or broken.
Grief has 7 stages. Spiritual guidance can be offered in steps as well. Here are the 3 Stages to Guide Your Clients Through Their Grief
Listen with all your being and do not interrupt. Often a caller will be in tears, near hysteria or very depressed. They may be embarrassed at their own grief.
They are extremely emotionally vulnerable and it’s best to let them just pour it all out as they’ve likely been bottling things deep inside for awhile.
They are not seeking sympathy, they simply want to be heard. They may tell you their friends and family are tired of hearing about it or told them to just move on.
Not only are these things unhelpful, they are hurtful to a suffering soul, so allow them to express without interjecting.
When their initial grief is spent the door is open for you to continue. I find callers in deep grief are overly sensitive to what and how you say things.
Grief is not the stuff of logical thinking so expect a myriad of reactions and choose your words gently and with respect. Try not to deliver platitudes or commonly used catchall phrases from self-help books such as everything will be fine, think positively etc.
Platitudes more than anything can turn a caller off immediately or even make them angry.
They’re calling because they need something, they don’t know what, but they don’t need to hear what everyone else may say.
Their soul is speaking to you, they have chosen you because they trust you to hear and help them.
For me, this is a great honor and blessing and working through grief can forge a very deep bond between you and your caller.
They have chosen you to be in this vulnerable space with so assuring them they are respected and heard is important for both their healing process and your connection together.
By now you are connected to your caller and understand their story and grief. Your caller may ask you to connect to their lost loved one or pet.
You can bring them great comfort by sharing with them everything that your gifts bring you. You may experience everything from scents to sound and all this can help ease your caller through grief.
Guide them in ways that are compassionately comforting. It can be helpful to speak with them about small things they can do to feel more connected to their loved ones.
For example, one spirit I was connecting to showed me the herb parsley. I suggested to my caller she keep a pot of parsley in her kitchen and when she saw and smelled it she could experience the mother she lost. This brought her great joy and she called me back months later to say how much it helped.
Working with grief is a big part of spiritual work. People seek answers and you can help them heal by listening, respecting and connecting to the space they are in.
Don’t try to rush them out of grief, they need to move through their own process. Assure them that healing happens in individual time frames and allow them to unburden themselves.
Make sure you balance and cleanse your own energies as well, so you are able receive clear information.
How do you work with grief?
What do you think?
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